Wednesday, February 1, 2012

Beyond the Mirror

One bittersweet revelation I have learned in marriage is that Adam sometimes knows me better than I know myself. Certain aspects of my heart that are concealed by the subconscious are revealed in certain times of our relationship.

Whenever you have a conflict with your spouse, the mirror image of your heart becomes visible. This is both beautiful and dangerous at the same time.

If you allow the Holy Spirit to protect you through the process, you will discover a new revelation that was once hidden by the enemy. God uses conflict as an opportunity for you to surrender to His refining fire so that He can do a mighty work in both you and your marriage.

Luke 8:17 says, "For nothing is secret that will not be revealed, nor anything hidden that will not be known and come to light." (NKJV)

However, the "dangerous" part is that the enemy emerges by resurfacing and creating new wounds. Conflict breeds a spirit of confusion because the truth is reflected, but in a mirror image form. For instance, a vulnerability in your spouse's heart can manifest in a spirit of hostility. If you deal with the manifest or mirror image spirit (hostility) it will result in confusion because the root truth (vulnerability) is concealed. Your spouse may act like a voracious lion, but on the inside he/she feels as weak as a kitten.

Purpose it in your heart to not allow conflicts to end at the superficial or symptomatic level. If you stop at the surface, the cycle will only repeat at a later time. You will not be able to see clearly until you have forgiven each other. This requires the work of the Holy Spirit.

Remember that love has authority over every other spirit.

I John 4:18 says, "There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love." (NKJV/ emphasis, mine)

If you approach your partner in love even in the midst of conflict, he/she will be able to see himself clearly. However, you must be willing to look beyond the "mirror" or the reflective spirits that the enemy has erected to confuse both of you.

Learn to view every conflict as an opportunity for deeper intimacy.


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